Oh the many many times we have all made stupid decisions we wished we could go back in time to correct.
From the little ones to major decisions we have all been there!
I have spent some time in the past going over some of my actions and decisions trying to work out what formula I could use to ensure I make better decisions in future.
I have looked at all the “bad” decisions I made and I realised that those bad ones were always from a place of lack or fear. All the ones that I deemed as good and healthy ones were from a place of love.
Using these two headlines as the basis of my decision making has helped me make better decisions and choices.
When you are in lack, feel like you are not enough or are in fear or shame you tend to make desperate and bad decisions.
Noticing it and making note of this can really help you make healthy love based decisions.
Think back to some of your bad decisions and try to remember how you were feeling. Were you anxious? Felt like you were loosing out or felt you were not enough or angry? Well those feelings of lack push you to make bad decisions if you give into them.
Now do the same thing with good decisions. You’ll find you were happy, centred, and held on to your moral code. You felt safe and was able to make a very healthy and good decision.
So going forward how do you make good and healthy decisions?
Well ask yourself this question!
What am I feeling? If you feel desperate, scared, not enough or ashamed or angry then it’s likely you will be driving your decision from a place of fear, and you’ll end up making an unhealthy decision.
If you feel love for yourself, you feel like you are worthy, enough and believe in you, then this state will drive a healthy and good decision.
It’s about really weighing up the way you feel before making that decision. If it sits in the fear category and will be driven from a place of lack then just take some time out to balance yourself back to feeling love or completeness before proceeding.
Balancing yourself means taking time to realise that you are enough. You really are more than enough and have nothing to prove to anyone. You will therefore not allow any negative emotion to drive your next step.
Yes I know it is not easy but life isn’t easy and we all have hard decisions to make at every turn. But you have the power to take full conscious responsibility for your actions and in turn feel great about them.
I do have to say that even though it is very important to make healthy and good decisions where you can there really isn’t a wrong way to do life, therefore even when we make bad decisions good does come from it. I’ll touch on this more in my book (coming out soon).
So for now do your best to do good by you and if you are stuck on making any decision use my formula and see if it helps.
I wish you a great life and one driven from a place of love rather than fear.
Much love Sarah Martin xoxo